I am currently in New Delhi, writing this post from a charming café, Elma’s, located in Hauz Khas Village, while my French press stares at me with imaginary eyes that beg me to take another sip of what is now cold black bitter coffee.
It’s best friend’s wedding in a few days and as a bridesmaid, I am in charge of organizing a few surprises, that I cannot disclose until after the wedding (in case the bride reads this post while she gets her hair coifed in her favorite manner). What I can disclose is that I am supposed to have the photo-booth looking better than any photo-booth Pinterest has ever seen—my friend and I have only T-minus-very-little-time remaining if we want to win the best-bridesmaids-ever award. Besides the wedding activities and bridesmaid duties, I am also working on a few interviews I have set up in Delhi for my blog’s TALK section and trying to squeeze in time to spend with my grandparents, cousins and best friend, whom I don’t get to see very often. Imagine Cookie Monster’s stress levels when he discovers that all the cookies on Planet Earth have been eaten up, and there is no way he can get himself another chocolate chip cookie; that is exactly how I feel right now except time is the cookie I am after.
Time seems to have bought itself a Ferrari, because I cannot keep up; but I also cannot afford to stress in case it brings with it an erupting pimple that no amount of tea-tree oil and concealer can fix. Instead I resolve to practice my 5 fast and easy steps to a happier and more productive day, every day until I upgrade my engine to match that of Time’s.
I understand that you may forget or get very lazy to practice these steps everyday…I know I do but when I do get around to it I actually have much better days and am left feeling like superwoman, which is a sign of a great and productive day. Also I smile a lot more and am subconsciously kinder; sometimes I even sneak my dog an extra biscuit.
You can practice these steps anywhere, in the shower or on your bed or whilst having your morning coffee; it takes less than 5 minutes and all you need is your mind. There are no set rules, enjoy it and make it your own. I promise you it works.
Step 1: Say thanks. Thank god or the universe or whoever or whatever you believe in, and if you don’t believe in anything, it is okay—say thanks, it still works. I usually say thanks for my life, my able body and mind, my friends and family and the experiences I have had.
Step 2: Count your blessings and send blessings. I like to visualise sending blessings; I know it may sound corny but I visualise sending an angel to whoever I want her to look after for the day. It’s also a nice way to remember the people in your life who are going through a hard time and need more positive energy, good vibrations and happy thoughts. Sending them an imaginary parcel of love and care actually works, and in a selfish way also makes you feel better.
Step 3: Forgive and seek forgiveness. I seek forgiveness from those that I have intentionally or unintentionally hurt in my lifetime and forgive those that have intentionally or unintentionally hurt me. This part can be a little difficult, but it always leaves me with a sense of calm. In the past I have been hurt by friends and even cheated on by exes, but the only form of closure that has worked for me is forgiveness. Starting your morning off with a dose of forgiveness is a wonderful energiser.
Step 4: Drown your worries. Visualise all the negative energy you may be carrying, all your stress and any worries that you might have, being wrapped up in a tight bundle and being thrown away into the ocean. Visualise that bundle sinking to the bottom of the ocean, where no man can ever find it. Then imagine your mind being an empty vacuum sucking in all the positive energy that surrounds it.
Step 5: Assert your awesomeness. (I don’t really like the word ‘awesomeness’ but I couldn’t think of another word while my phone buzzes with reminders of where I have to be in 30 minutes) Tell yourself that today is going to be a great day and that you are going to be the best possible version of yourself.
Simple. Fast. Easy. Awesomeness.
—Video by Nithin Barath, BV Vishnu and Dinesh